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John W. James

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Is Guilt the Right Word? Answering a two-pronged question from a hurting young woman. (Published 12-6-11)


My Name is Sammi. I'm 17. My dad passed on Sept. 30. Honestly, I can’t handle it. My dad and I fought all the time. We never got along because of the past. I had a little girl and he was so happy when I brought her to visit, because he thought he'd never get to see her. I saw him for the last time 15 days before he died, and I have a picture with him and my daughter and me. He looked so sick. How do I get over the fact that he's gone? How do I get over the guilt I have? How do I forgive myself for not getting him help when I saw the condition he was in? I’m depressed about all of this and I don’t know how to do this without him!

Hi, it’s Sammi again. Sorry to bother you, but I have another question. My sister is very depressed because our dad died exactly a week after her birthday, and she just doesn’t know what to do. What can I tell her? She hardly went to visit him and she regrets that very much. How do I tell her that none of it was her fault, and that she shouldn’t blame herself?

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    September 2015
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    Des Moines, IA - Sept 11-14, 2015
    Gatwick, England - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Detroit, MI - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Houston, TX - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Los Angeles, CA - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Mexico City, D.F., Mexico - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Atlanta, GA - Sept 25-28, 2015

    October 2015
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    Portland, OR - Oct 2-5, 2015
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    San Diego, CA - Oct 16-19, 2015
    Louisville, KY - Oct 16-19, 2015
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    Edmonton, AB, Canada - Oct 23-26, 2015
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