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Death of a Spouse
Sharing your experience with others can be an invaluable part of the healing process. Hear from others who are struggling with the same circumstances and want to share their journey of healing.
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shocked
I lost my husband suddenly a year and half ago. I woke up to find him on the ground, gone. He had recently had surgery and was given a clean bill of health from the doctors that very same day. THey were as shocked as i was. I miss him terribly. He was my best friend, confidant and companion. There isnt a day that goes by that i dont see him or feel him near me. People think i should be fine now and get angry when i tell them that i dont know how to be happy any more, i dont know how to convey to them that i need them to just listen and make me laugh. My whole family is also affected by this and i need my friends to take over what would normally be the family support but my friends are too busy with their own lives to even just think to say hi when i call or email. I need the distraction of friends but that doesnt always happen when i need it too. I just want them to listen when i talk and not say anything. This writing should be a good outlet for those feelings. Thanks for listening.
Having Loved & Being Loved
Just found this Web page today. It has been two years ago on Labor Day that I lost my dear Ed. My husband of 42 years, my best friend, Father of a son, daughter and twin grandson's.
There are few words that can describe the horrible pain of the loss over these two years. I too tried the grief sessions at the hospital where he died and could not find comfort.
More than anything, I would like to share with others and perhaps help as well.
Blondie
There are few words that can describe the horrible pain of the loss over these two years. I too tried the grief sessions at the hospital where he died and could not find comfort.
More than anything, I would like to share with others and perhaps help as well.
Blondie
Missing Gary
I am a recent widow for the second time. My 1st husband passed away on 7/12/95, my second husband passed away on 07/11/08. We were married 8 years. I am 60 soon to be 61. I had polio as a child and am now in a power chair. My husband accepted me, loved me and doted on me. I miss him so much and I am so lonely. I'm also feeling very disenfranchised. l've had a life long illness and lost 2 good husbands. I don't think it is fair, I know life is not fair, but I am getting bitter. Any thoughts?
MY LOVELY WIFE
My dearest Pauline Eannarino was the love of my life. Losing her so suddenly after 37 years of love and devotion especially by her was so devastating my heart is broken. I truly loved this beautiful woman and cannot replace her if I lived a nother hundred years. She took extra good care of me and protected me from all the bad elements of life. She stayed steadfastly by me in my hour 's of perrile during my heart surgery and hardly ever left my side. I sorely miss her beautiful face and lovely smile which lit up my life. Her wonderful warm body next to mine was unreplaceable and fantisizing. I neeeded her to continue my life but now it is unbearable and I just want to join her if there is a way I can. I d like to commit a Dialysis suicide which is not really suicide but a choice of quality of living of which I now have none. Living without her is really not living but dying a thousand times over. Please god take my life before I take my own. I dont want to live without you PaulineYour husband Matthew ....
Alone
I lost my husband 3 days after Christmas and then my mom 2 1/2 weeks later. My world is so upside down and some days all I do is cry. My husband died peacefully in his sleep after a long long time of being ill, so I'm thankful that his suffering is over but now what? It wasn't supposed to happen this way, we were supposed to grow old together, we were suppose to be at our sons graduation together. I just don't know what to do with myself. I can't pack away his things because it's too painful.
Need to share
John was my soul-mate as well as husband, friend, lover,companion, everything! He died April 10, 2008. I've been to grief counseling but it hasn't helped. My heart is broken in a million pieces. I feel guilty because my little dachshund is grieving too. I take him for long walks daily and it seems to help at the time. We were uprooted three days after John's death by my kids. They brought me from my home in New Mexico to Washington State near my daughter. He died in our bed suddenly. I am so lonely. First it was shock, now it is the reality I want to belong to a group of people who can relate and empathize. If we share our experience, strength and hope I think we can begin to heal. Please, can you help? Do you have any ideas about my dog, Stinger. Most of the time he seems so unhappy. He also lost his companion, Columbo, John's dog. Thank you, Lost
Your feeling Lost . . .
Losing your soulmate is one of the, if not the, most difficult experiences to go through so I think all of the feelings and emotions you are going through are actually quite normal. To believe that these feelings will disappear is not being truthful or realistic either. The hurt will continue by I can tell you it will lessen as time passes and that is what you need. But working through the hard times now, including the periods of really missing him, are a part of it. I am glad that you want to 'belong' to a group that can help you through this and can share similar experiences, all difficult, with you. I understand about your dog too! It is strange sometimes but it's that they know too and go through their own process too. It's just great that Stinger still has you. Enjoy the times, enjoy the memories and never forget.
Death of a Spouse
No one understands better than someone who has been there. Come share your experience, your memories, and your feelings. Celebrate the life that was and the life that soon will be. Learn from others who have been, and are still dealing, with their loss.
