Loss of a Child
An Unforgettable Pain
On July 22, 2006, I watched in horror as my sister slipped away in her sleep after a year-long battle with breast/brain cancer.
The pain that I have watched my mother go through since that day has been the most unforgettable, inconceivable pain that a child can EVER see their parent suffer through. And the WORST part of all of this, is that my mother had JUST began to come to grips with having lost her father in 2004 to Alzheimer's, during the horrendous hurricanes in South Florida.
What a trying time this has been for us!
Having lost my only sister, my baby sister, I hurt immensly because she was only 36 years old, had never been married, had bore no children for us to remember her by, and had not lived even a portion of her potential before she was taken from us.
But hearing my parents mourn as they lowered my sister's casket into the ground was heartbreaking.
The only comfort that I have been able to find in all of this pain, is that our Lord in heaven knows EXACTLY how my parents feel, for He too, watched His son take His final breaths on the cross.
It doesn't make the pain go away any faster, but it helps strengthen my faith and trust in the fact that only God knows why things happen. And everything that happens will ultimately work out for our good.
So although we miss her dearly, my sister is no longer in pain and is at rest. My mother is healing slowly each day, and I'm sure to make her laugh with memories of silly things my sister did or said.
Laughter and prayer, I've found, have been two of the most useful healing tools used to get through these tragedies. And I pray that each of you find comfort in them as well.
The pain that I have watched my mother go through since that day has been the most unforgettable, inconceivable pain that a child can EVER see their parent suffer through. And the WORST part of all of this, is that my mother had JUST began to come to grips with having lost her father in 2004 to Alzheimer's, during the horrendous hurricanes in South Florida.
What a trying time this has been for us!
Having lost my only sister, my baby sister, I hurt immensly because she was only 36 years old, had never been married, had bore no children for us to remember her by, and had not lived even a portion of her potential before she was taken from us.
But hearing my parents mourn as they lowered my sister's casket into the ground was heartbreaking.
The only comfort that I have been able to find in all of this pain, is that our Lord in heaven knows EXACTLY how my parents feel, for He too, watched His son take His final breaths on the cross.
It doesn't make the pain go away any faster, but it helps strengthen my faith and trust in the fact that only God knows why things happen. And everything that happens will ultimately work out for our good.
So although we miss her dearly, my sister is no longer in pain and is at rest. My mother is healing slowly each day, and I'm sure to make her laugh with memories of silly things my sister did or said.
Laughter and prayer, I've found, have been two of the most useful healing tools used to get through these tragedies. And I pray that each of you find comfort in them as well.
Comments:
Ypu have gone through so much in such a short period of time. I am convinced that a lot of the suffering happens days, weeks, months and years to follow after the death of someone so close. Seems cruel at times but I do believe that we all have a plan put in place for us and that sometimes it just doesn't make sense yet we can't change it but rather find a way to accept it, live with it and cherish each day we have with family and friends.
I am glad you shared your pain and grief and if possible, take consolation in knowing that your grandfather and sister are together.
So continue to laugh and pray and never forget.
posted by emmaheald
