Death of a Parent


Missing Dad

The worst day of my life- May 19, 2009. . . My dad passed away unexpectedly after surgery complications. The surgery was successful and he was in recovery for 4 days when suddenly everything went wrong. I am having trouble understanding why God had to take him! I can't fully express or put into words how much my dad meant to me. I was very close to him and we had such a happy family. He was the perfect example of a father and husband. My dad would have celebrated his 49th birthday this Tuesday (7/28). It will be a hard day without him. As if all the other days aren't hard?

I had my first public meltdown this week. I ran to Walmart to pick up just a few things. I couldn't believe my eyes as I walked right by the man who performed surgery on my dad. He was also the same man who was unable to save my dad's life. You NEVER forget the face of a person who tells you that your dad is gone. As soon as I saw him, I almost fell over in the middle of the store. I quickly decided to leave and of course-- I picked the slowest line possible. To make the situation worse, out of every person in the store he ended up beside me in line. It was horrible, I couldn't help but cry. I never expected to see that man again. I don't want to be angry. I know he did everything he could to save my dad. However, seeing that doctor is how I associate the loss my dad. And I haven't fully accepted the fact that my dad is gone. I need my dad!

"A daughter needs a dad because WITHOUT HIM she will have less in her life than she deserves. "
"A daughter needs a dad to make the family whole and complete."
" A daughter needs a dad who will influence her life even when he isn't with her."
  posted by April on July 26, 2009


Comments:

I am so sorry that you lost your dad. I agree, girls aren't suppose to lose their dads. Dads are the foundation of every family. Thank you for sharing your touching story. Thank you for reaching out to me as well. I think the one most important thing to remember about the grieving process is...."Everyone goes through it differently." There are no expectations on you as to how you should feel, when you should feel it, or how to react to the pain when it rises up beyond your control. God knows our hearts and the pain we feel. In His strength we will go on and help others because we have been there and done that. Hang in there and keep expressing yourself - no apologies neeeded, ever.

  posted by YayYay62 on July 27, 2009

PS. My dad's birthday is coming up on August 4th. I have dicided to celebrate his life by drinking his favorite drink, Lemon Sour and watching SYFY, his other favorite. May God's peace and grace cover you as you face each and every day.

  posted by YayYay62 on July 27, 2009