Loss of a Child


Alana Smith 12/25/01-7/20/09

My daughter Alana Smith was killed in a car accident on July 20th, 2009. The worst day of my entire life. My first born taken away from me. She was my everything. I had her when I was 21 so I was young and still immature. She was a blessing. She made me grow up-we grew up together. I felt like somehow our souls were connected in some strange ways. I have another daughter Olivia and she is 4 yrs old. I am trying to be strong for her but it is so hard. She was in the car when the accident happened also and thank gosh she survived. My mom was driving which is such a hard situation in itself also. But I keep asking myself if I will ever be able to move on and not feel so depressed and lonely. It is so hard. I know I am going to have to keep on moving but I ask myself how everyday.
Posted by TDouglas on August 09, 2009


Comments:

Im so sorry,I lost my only child July 4,2009.Its so hard to get threw the days,But god has a reason,I dont know what,I keep asking and get no reply.If you want to talk e-mail me at firenice56@yahoo.com.

diana

posted by fire on August 18, 2009

Hello,
You WILL be abe to move about again. Will life ever be normal? Absolutely not. I lost my only child in a car accident on 3/1/2009; he was a passenger in someone else's car and was the only one to pass away. Although it's only been 7 and a half months, I still remember it like it was 7 and a half minites ago. I became depressed, had to go disabilty for 5 months, seeing a psychiatrist and therapist and couldn't be alone for (everyone else's)fear of me not being able to function; and I couldn't. You're going to go through various stages and even now, there are some days I simply am paralyzed by the grief. If you're not opposed to therapy, you may want to see a psychologist to have someone to talk to; a psychiatrist for anti-depressants; a pastor for spiritual guidance and a support group for bereaved parents to know you're not alone.

posted by iris on October 21, 2009

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved daughter! I too lost my son on July 9, 2009 my first born. I know life will never be the same for us. I hope you have the support of family and friends...if not for them I could not begin to dig myself out of the dark hole I have buried my self in. There is not a day that goes by that I do not shed a tear for my son. Please know you are not alone in this. There are people who can help you deal with this terrible nightmare. I pray for you and your family.

posted by deckman on October 21, 2009

I lost my son almost 4 years ago, and I still ask "how am I to move on"....my life will never ever be the same!

posted by jrs mom on October 23, 2009

It is so devastating to hear about all these children loss. Why? Why are kids the ones who suffer? Not only kids, but people in general. In times like these it is best to go to the bible for guidance. It may seem hard because many people don't know where to turn for helpful guidance. Although the grief at times may seem unbearable, remember that you can always pray. Pray for peace. Pray for help to overcome this hurdle. The bible tells us at Psalms 55:22 to "throw your burden on Jehovah and he himself will sustain you." Be assured that God does not want you to carry this load on your own. He offers his help in coping. I have an excellent magazine on grief and coping with the loss of a dead loved one if anyone is interested. Please send me a message.

posted by msroberson on October 23, 2009