Death of a Parent
Cruelty after Mom's Death
I remember a message preached by Bishpo T.D. Jakes. He said the spouse you choose should be the one you want by your side when they lower you love one into the ground. My mother went to heaven last week as I held her hand when she took her last breath. I came home and told my husband that my mother had just died. He was lying on the couch and made no comment. I did not even get a hug from him. I repeated to him what happened as I stood there weak with grief and he still closed his eyes and turned his back on me. The next day was worse. I was more in need of him and he would not hold me and would not even speak to me. This was my sadest moment and I was totally rejected by him. I have stood by him in many hard times with events involving law enforcement and including the death of his own mother who lived out of state. His reaction to me during this time has doubled my greif with the feeling of not being able to turn to the closest person to me.
Comments:
It sounds like your husband was self-centered thinking of his own grief. He may still be grieving with his own Mother's death and may not know how to comfort you. Obviously, you needed him and he wasn't there for you. He may pull farther away from you if you keep reminding him of your Mother's death. I know it's hard and it hurts. All I can say to you is to ask God to help you get him through his Mother's death and also to love and comfort you and be with you in your time of need also. Then give God some time to do his job.
posted by PreciousLove on November 12, 2009
