Charity Haines
Charity Haines
  • January 12, 1945 - January 15, 2017
  • Charlottesville, Virginia

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Charity Tonkin Haines died on Sunday, January 15, 2017 at the Hospice Center from the effects of cancer. She was born January 12, 1945 in New York City to Edward William Tonkin and Ruby Louise Haughton, who died in childbirth. Charity was raised by her father and loving stepmother, Hazel Kells.

She was educated in the public school system of New York in Queens, and graduated from the University of New Hampshire, with a Bachelor’s degree in history. At UNH, she married US Air Force ROTC student Kenneth Gorrell. They had two children, Kenneth and Shannon. As an Air Force wife, Charity maintained the household while her husband served a combat tour in Vietnam. After the Air Force, they raised their children in the 18th century farmhouse in Northfield, NH, that had been in the family for nine generations.

Charity's professional life began as an elementary teacher in Holderness, New Hampshire, where she also served as Assistant principal. In the early 1980s, she earned master’s degrees in Early Childhood Education and Administration and Supervision. She also earned a graduate certificate in counseling. She served as a child and family therapist with Riverbend Counseling in Concord, NH, before helping to found Warren Street Family Counseling. In 1983, she married Richard Haines.

During these years, Charity was active in the Concord Chorale and the South Church, UCC, choir. She also served as a deacon and elder at South Church and was active in professional associations.

In 1995, Charity and Dick moved to Charlottesville, VA, so that Dick could become a faculty member in the University of Virginia Health System Chaplaincy department. Charity continued her professional career as the first Program Coordinator of the Bright Stars and Family Support programs in the Albemarle County Social Service Department and the Albemarle County schools. She loved working to develop early childhood educational programs and organizing support for at-risk elementary school children. As a member of Westminster Presbyterian Church, she served as a deacon, elder, choir member, and church school teacher.

In retirement, she volunteered as a Friend of the Library. Charity was also an active member of the Charlottesville Scholarship Committee and took joy in seeing so many young people receive the financial support they needed to go to college. She also participated in the Needle Work Guild of America and many local events.

Charity was predeceased by her parents, Edward and Hazel Tonkin, and sister Barbara Moorhead. She is survived by her husband, Richard Bartlett Haines; son Kenneth Gorrell of Northfield, NH, and his wife Holli; daughter Shannon Reid of Epsom, NH, and her husband, Tom, and grandchildren Katherine Charity and Peter Reid; step-son Andrew Haines of Berwyn, PA, and his wife Kristina, and grandchildren Sam and Alex Haines; step-daughter Stefanie Haines and her husband David Kurtz of Epping, NH; brother Edward Tonkin, his wife Deborah, and their children Ted, Ginny, and Collier of Erie, PA; and brother-in-law John Moorhead of Erie, PA.; and her beloved dog “Brady”.

Charity Haines was a woman of deep faith and abundant compassion who was always ready to offer expertise and support to her friends and communities.

Visitation will be at Teague Funeral home on Friday, January 20, 2017 from 6-8 pm. A Memorial Service will be held at Westminster Presbyterian Church on Saturday, January 21, 2017 at 1 pm.

Special thanks to Dr. Brenin and her team at the Emily Couric Center and to the Deacons of Westminster Presbyterian Church.

Memorial contributions may be made in Charity’s name to the Charlottesville Scholarship Program, PO Box 1221, Charlottesville, VA 22902.

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