- March 13, 1950 - October 5, 2016
- Monterey, California
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Philip Wayne Frey was born on March 13, 1950 in Lodi, California and passed away suddenly in his home on October 5, 2016 in Monterey, California. His enduring passions for family, church, history, the music of Bach, creative cooking, Rosenthal china, fine but affordable art, and wine all came in time. Throughout, he was always true to himself and shared his appreciation for life, critical thought, and political fervor with all he encountered.
Born to parents Evanda and Reuben, Phil graduated valedictorian of Lodi High School, where he first met his future wife Jackie. He went on to receive his undergraduate degree from Stanford in European History where he studied on a National Merit Scholarship. After college, Phil married Jackie Uttke, also of Lodi, and attended graduate school at Yale, during which he studied German intellectual history in Bielefeld, Germany on a Fulbright Fellowship. While in graduate school, Phil and Jackie welcomed two beloved sons, Wil and Karl. Their two daughters, Merideth and Ann, followed a decade later while living in Gilroy, California where Phil long served as organist and vestry officer for St. Stephen's Episcopal Church.
Phil retired in 2006 from his management career in Silicon Valley and found his greatest fulfillment in his four children and twelve grandchildren. He filled his retirement with charitable work all around the Monterey Peninsula. He served admirably as senior warden and treasurer for St. Mary's Episcopal Church, did his best in the choir, and volunteered in many community ministries. Phil also worked on behalf of COPA, the Episcopal Diocese of El Camino Real, and the Monterey County Food Bank. Phil could always be depended on to serve as sage advisor and trusted confidant for his family, friends, and community.
Preceded in death by his father Reuben, and his brother Craig, he is survived by his wife of 44 years, Jackie; mother, Evanda; brother, Rod (Jorge); sister-in-law, Petere; four children and their spouses, Wil (Michelle), Karl (Frances), Merideth (Melvin), and Ann (Joshua); as well as twelve cherished grandchildren. A memorial service is to be held at St. Mary's By The Sea in Pacific Grove at noon on October 22nd, followed by a reception to celebrate Phil's life and the blessing that he was to all. We miss him and remain grateful for his love and example. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that those who wish to make donations send them to St. Mary's By The Sea (Attn: Social Concerns Ministry), 146 Twelfth Street, Pacific Grove, CA 93950.