Thelma R. Flammer
Thelma R. Flammer
  • May 1, 1921 - November 21, 2016
  • Carlsbad, California

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Thelma Reinfelder Flammer, 95, of Carlsbad, CA, passed away on Monday, November 21, 2016, at Sunrise La Costa in Carlsbad. She joins her Creator and her beloved husband, George A. Flammer. Born on May 1, 1921 in Newark, New Jersey, she was the youngest daughter of John Fredrick Reinfelder and Eleanor Krurger Reinfelder.

Mrs. Flammer lived in Essex County, New Jersey for 45 years prior to moving to California in 2013 to be near her grand-daughter and great-grandchildren. During her many years living in Roseland, New Jersey, Thelma was very active in multiple civic activities. Along with her husband, she was one of the organizers in 1975 of the Roseland Historical Society, and participated in raising funds to purchase the 1824 Harrison House, a beautiful farmhouse of the period. She spent many days quilting, crafting, and gardening at the Harrison House and very much enjoyed b ringing her grand-children there to play pretend and do “period” chores.

After Roseland, Thelma and her husband moved to Winchester Gardens in Maplewood, NJ. She lived there for 13 years with her husband and two years after his passing. While at Winchester Gardens, she organized a group of residents to open, stock and staff a General Store to ensure residents always had access to everyday items without leaving the grounds. She also continued her charitable efforts by making teddy bears, clothing and winter mittens for multiple charities.

Upon moving to California three years ago, Thelma quickly became a regular at her great-grandchilren’s plays, school events and house. She brought much light and joy to her family during her time in Carlsbad, CA. Thelma had a servant’s heart throughout her life, and she served many with her gifts and presence. She walked in the light of the Lord and truly exemplified the fruits of the spirit with her kindness, love, joyfulness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, peacefulness and patience. She is dearly missed.

Surviving Thelma are her niece, Adele Corbett Reiter; her grand-daughter and grandson-in-law, Amanda and Keith Clardy, and their two daughters; her grandson and granddaughter-in-law, Van and Marcia Hemphill and their daughter; and her best friend of 90 years, Florence Clymer.

A small memorial service will be held in Carlsbad, CA, during the Christmas season to commemorate the love and kindness Thelma continuously showed to her friends and family. If you would like to send the family a note or leave a message about a memory regarding Thelma, please visit the digital guest book established at