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“As PE director @ SDBGC, in '78 ,I had the privilege of presenting the vote for Bobby as Boy Of The Year. He was a very unique kid.. Even at 14 , he...Read More »
1 of 12 | Posted by: Mike Partridge - San Mateo, CA

“There are so few special souls such as Bobby that have inhabited this earth. He will be sadly missed, and there is no replacement for him. We are...Read More »
2 of 12 | Posted by: Renee Fox - Encinitas, CA

“I'm so sorry to hear of Bobby's passing. I've thought of him many times over the years and even tried to look him up when visiting Encinitas. Bobby...Read More »
3 of 12 | Posted by: Matthew Rothenberg - Maplewood, NJ

“Bobby, in my memories, your grin will always carry a little bit of mischief. The good kind! My teen years wouldn't have been the same without you,...Read More »
4 of 12 | Posted by: Hannes Kling - San Diego - friend

“Bobby--you are fondly remembered and missed. We had so much fun in drama at the Boys and Girls Club and you were so talented and willing to play any...Read More »
5 of 12 | Posted by: Melanie Domres - Arlington, VA

“We will be praying for him and his Family ”
6 of 12 | Posted by: Larry Reigel - Anaheim, CA

“i am so sorry to hear of bobbys passing. we went to school from 1st grade on. he was great guy. my thoughts and prayers are with his whole family. ”
7 of 12 | Posted by: kim rogers - harrison, AR

“Bobby was such an inspiring person when I knew him in junior high, high school and at the boy's club. I remember that everyone who knew him was...Read More »
8 of 12 | Posted by: Valarie Schwan - Wilderville, OR

“We wish we had the words to take away all the pain and deep sorrow of your loss, but there are not any words that carry the power to take on such an...Read More »
9 of 12 | Posted by: Caylyn & Herman - CA - Friends

“I have many great memories of Bobby, as when firsr matt bobby he was working at Carls Junior and boeing a vista entertainment center. I would go...Read More »
10 of 12 | Posted by: Bill Parks - Escondidi, CA

“Hey Tiger, geez dont know what to say. gone to soon. loved kidding and flirting and joking with you out back. times of our life. i will miss your...Read More »
11 of 12 | Posted by: Julie Snyder - Encinitas, CA

“Miss you and your humor when I visit the house :( ”
12 of 12 | Posted by: Michelle M


Bobby was surrounded by his love of 27 years Randa, the joys of his life Cole (14) and Sam (10), his loving mother Barbara Medley, caring mother-in-law Wanda Fast, best friend and best man Todd Meister, brothers David Medley, Carl Medley, sister Barbara Tharp, sisters-in-law Darlene Medley, Cindy Casey, brother-in-law David Tharp, nephews DJ Medley, Daniel Medley, Dustin Medley, Kyle Medley, and nieces Jackie Medley & Tami Tharp.

Bobby was born in Escondido, CA on January 27, 1964. At the age of 2, his family moved to Leucadia for about 7 years, then to Encinitas where he settled.

Bobby was always a very unique individual. As a young boy, he used to pin a towel around his neck and run through the house yelling, "Batman!" And if he was really lucky, he would get one of his older brothers or sister to carry him and give him that "flying through the air" feeling. He was never afraid to march to his own drummer. At his request, his mom made him a pair of purple corduroy knickerbockers with a matching purple vest. The vest was reversible with a purple flower print. He wore it to school proudly! And he paid no attention to those who ridiculed him when he purposely wore his clothes inside out or wore 2 different color socks. It didn't bother him at all to be different than those around him. His ambition in life was to grow up and be a warlock.

He went to Central Elementary, Oak Crest Jr. High, and graduated from San Dieguito High School in 1981. In elementary and Jr. high, he played little league baseball and soccer. He also enjoyed going to the San Dieguito Boys & Girls Club where he received the 'Boy of the Year' Award when he was 14. During high school, he found success as an actor and even taught himself how to play the guitar, in 1 week, so he could try out for the school play, Butterflies are Free. He received 'Thespian of the Year' Award as a senior and was also able to travel to London with the thespian group to visit the many museums and experience the Queen's Guards at Buckingham Palace.

Bobby attended Palomar College & Coleman College for computer programming and founded his own Accounting and Billing Service and was known to many as "Bob the Biller."

Bobby and Randa's love story began in 1985 at the Carl's Jr. restaurant in Encinitas where they were both employed. Bobby wanted to date Randa but much to Bobby's chagrin, Randa was only 17 and he was 21. So he waited till she turned 18 to ask her on a date. 'And the rest is history' as they say. They eventually married in 1994 and their family grew with the birth of their first son Cole in 1996 and their second son Sam in 2001.

Bobby was a great family man and his family was the joy in his life. He became the stay-at-home dad and was fantastic at it. He volunteered in the boys' activities whenever possible. At their preschool, he helped the kids with singing and playing music. At Paul Ecke Central Elementary, he was a Playground Partner for many years. He also volunteered in the classrooms in the art and reading programs. When the boys became active in sports, Bobby signed on as the assistant coach for their soccer and baseball teams. "Go Hoppers!" He drove the family taxi whenever needed and provided technological support at home - wiring the house in surround sound and wi-fi.

Bobby was a self-taught musician who sang, loved to compose and write music. He was a friend to all - animal or human - and was always willing to help a lost soul. He always offered comic relief with his quick wit. His wit was always with him as was his warm smile. He had a wonderful way of touching others in his own quiet, funny, and loving fashion.

Please join us in celebrating a "Life Well Played" in honor of Bobby, husband, father, son, brother, uncle, nephew and friend to all. His wish was to have us gather, laugh and share stories as if he was there. The celebration is from 11 to 2, with a formal remembrance at 12. If you would like to share a memory with the group, you may do so at the end of the presentation (just like Open Mic- Karaoke style).

Encinitas Community Center
1140 Oakcrest Park Drive
Encinitas, CA 92024

In lieu of flowers, gifts, or food, please consider donating in Bobby's honor to the American Cancer Society, specifically for research related to Adenocarcinoma/ non-small celled lung cancer, the San Diego Hospice, or bring a towel, blanket, or unopened cat or dog treats or food to be donated to the San Diego Humane Society and SPCA.