- August 6, 1921 - January 10, 2009
- Baltimore, Maryland
of Ferby's Passing
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Ferby Jane McNeil, began her journey on August 6, 1921, in clinton, North carolina. She lived on a farm with her parents until her mother Etha Bell passed away. she was then raised by her loving father, graham Matthis, and his mother. At an early age, Ferby's education was interrupted by the passing of her grandmother when she had to assume the responsibility of raising her two younger brothers, James Dorsey and Elliott Graham. Ferby was destined to be a nurturer and caretaker.
Ferby Jane married Wilbert McNeil and from this union they parented four children; Wilbert Jr., Hubert James, Deloris (Sissie) and Brenda Jane.
She always sought to advance herself. For many years, she worked as a cook at Sampson Training school, now called sampson High School.
After leaving North Carolina, she moved to New York where Ferby worked as a Nanny. She relocated to Baltimore with with her children in 1959. She was a strong women who worked hard to better herself and her family. She had a strong will, a desire to be independent and a natural aptitude for business.
Her strong faith in God was evident in the manner in which she lived her life. She was a member of Jones Tabernacle Baptist Church and attended services there until her confinement to Augsburg Lutheran Nursing Home. Years ago, when asked by her youngest daughter if she was afraid to die, she replied with fervor, "Afraid to die, to go home to be with my Father, no indeed."
Ferby's home was always a place where one could find the neighborhood children seeking delicious homemade snacks and enjoying themselves spending time with "Miss Ferby." They loved the edible treats that included candy apples and frozen cups, and they loved Miss Ferby. Sometimes, her own children were jealous of the love and attention that she showered on the neiborghood children.
Mrs. McNeil was a doting and loving mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. After the death of her granddaughter, Michelle, she spoke of how proud she was of her daughter, Brenda, for caring for Brittany and Stevie, Michelle's children. Ferby had a special affinity with her great-grandchildren; often, she would comment that Brittany had lived before and that she is always ten steps ahead of you.
As Ferby began her transition, her family asked God if He would allow Michelle, Uncle JD (James Dorsey), Uncle John, Aunt Pearl, Aunt Elizabeth, Lee and Mr. William to take her hand and peacefully guide her home. On Saturday, January 10, 2009, God answered their prayers. As she walked the fields of Angels, they came to comfort her. she was healed and set free.
Her legacy includes; her loving children, Wilbert McNeil, Jr., Hebert James McNeil, Deloris McNeil-Dantzler and Brenda McNeil-Bowie; her sons-in-law, Marion Dantzler and Dr. Charles Bowie; one brother, Elliot Graham Matthis; grandchildren, Marlo McNeil, Cynthia Johnson, Elizabeth McNeil, Lamont McNeil, and Jennifer Morton; great-grandchildren, Brittany, Stevie and James McNeil. She was predeased by her husband Wilbert McNeil, her brother James Dorsey and her granddaughter Michelle McNeil.