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“Hi, You don't know me but i feel like your my close friend. You will always be remembered. Stay Strong. Huge love❤❤❤ ”
1 of 100+ | Posted by: Kumar Harshit - New Delhi, India, CA

“Stay strong dear family! ”
2 of 100+ | Posted by: Diego Ribeiro - FL

“I am sure his name is a blessing and may your memories bring you much comfort. ”
3 of 100+ | Posted by: marc gossin

4 of 100+ | Posted by: Masha Burdette - sister

“In the beginning, Jesus wept, saying, "May the grace of the Lord God, go with you all." ”
5 of 100+ | Posted by: Steve Wilson - Cincinnati, OH

“So sad, heartbreaking. ”
6 of 100+ | Posted by: Robert K - Aliso Viejo, CA

“Stay strong ”
7 of 100+ | Posted by: Arttu Kylo Hyttinen - joensuu, LA

“Matthew, I really don't have the words to begin describing my feelings. I grew up in San Diego, and I visit very very often. I guess that doesn't...Read More »
8 of 100+ | Posted by: Faith

“I wish I had talked to him before I knew that this had happened to remind him that he still has two friends who won't ever turn against him , our...Read More »
9 of 100+ | Posted by: Trevor , and Brian

“Matthews life is MAKING a DIFFERENCE --because we are all learning the PAIN that our young people go through and it is a constant lesson and...Read More »
10 of 100+ | Posted by: Teem Osborn - san diego, CA

“Matthew shouldn't have been put through this nobody deserves to be tormented so badly that they feel like the only solution is to take their own life...Read More »
11 of 100+ | Posted by: Tristin

“Matthew, I do not know you. But what those kids did to you was horrible. No one should feel forced to take their own life - and they made you. You...Read More »
12 of 100+ | Posted by: Simone - Denmark

“To Matthew's family, my heart goes out to you, especially to his parents. Adolescence is a difficult time without the hell that unrelenting...Read More »
13 of 100+ | Posted by: Linda

“I think about your family and the sorrow you have been going through everyday. I pray that God gives you strength as you remember the life of...Read More »
14 of 100+ | Posted by: Gloria Del Castillo - Fallbrook, CA

“I never met Matthew--But I hear how amazing he was--how funny he was--and I think of him often-because it helps me be MORE KIND--REACH out MORE- and...Read More »
15 of 100+ | Posted by: teem osborn - san diego, CA

“There isn't a day that goes by that I don't look at where Matt used to sit and am reminded of him. His loss has affected me greatly. I am more aware...Read More »
16 of 100+ | Posted by: M. Juergens - San Diego, CA

“Barb, Tim and Masha,Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you today.Your strength is an inspiration for all who suffer from such tragic losses. ”
17 of 100+ | Posted by: Mary White - pasco, WA - friend

“I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your courage in making the decision that made Matthew's story public. This must be so difficult for you....Read More »
18 of 100+ | Posted by: Marcy - Prairie village, KS

“With caring thoughts our hearts are saddened for your loss ”
19 of 100+ | Posted by: Andy

“R.I.P. From Denmark... My tears go to the Family. ”
20 of 100+ | Posted by: Maja Horup - Silkeborg

“Dear Matthew, I am sorry this happened to you. I cannot get you out of my kind since I heard about your story yesterday. My heart cries for you. I...Read More »
21 of 100+ | Posted by: Michelle

“Condolences to Matthew's family. I heard about his story in the news today and he was all that was on my mind. I pray for Matthew. My heart aches...Read More »
22 of 100+ | Posted by: Michelle

“its so sad that he passed but you must know he is at peace now and he can rest now that he is not being bullied anymore i will keep him in my prayers. ”
23 of 100+ | Posted by: Robert Lee - Elkhart, IN

“Im so sorry for your loss, I will pray for him, I don't know him personally, but hope you get through this ”
24 of 100+ | Posted by: Savannah Johnson - kerman, CA

“I don't know Matthew, but I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you will have a good life, even though its a big loss. Noah, 16 Denmark ”
25 of 100+ | Posted by: Noah

“Such a loss. Saw this on the news and wanted to say how much this saddened me. As an ex-Boy Scout, I pledge to keep Matthew and all his family in...Read More »
26 of 100+ | Posted by: Terry Capps - Elizabethtown, NC

“À la mémoire de Matthew, que je ne connaissais pa.; ”
27 of 100+ | Posted by: Françoise Grave Lille France

“Rest in peace ”
28 of 100+ | Posted by: Andreas - Copenhagen - unknown

“There is no greater loss than the loss of a child. As a parent I understand I would give my life for my child. I am so sorry that Matthew had the...Read More »
29 of 100+ | Posted by: William Greenhouse - Tyngsboro, MA

“My biggest condolence to the family and loved ones. No one deserves to be treated this way by anyone! I hope this is a wakeup call for the people...Read More »
30 of 100+ | Posted by: Lidia Haghos Denmark, Copenhagen

“I send all my love to Matthews family. Bullying is the worst thing in this entire world. I'm sure that Matthew loved you with all off his heart, and...Read More »
31 of 100+ | Posted by: Luna Mller - LA, CA - None

“I send my best wishes to the family, friends and others. This is a sad story, and I hope this is one of the last of them. Regards ”
32 of 100+ | Posted by: Frostie - Miami, FL - Unknown

“So sorry to hear that. No one deserves to feel that bad:( A little thought from Denmark. ”
33 of 100+ | Posted by: Johnny L Pedersen

“As someone just seeing this story, I cannot believe that this had to happen! No one deserves to be bullied, including how much Matthew was. Out of...Read More »
34 of 100+ | Posted by: Taite - boston, MA

“What a sad story. My thougts are with you little man:( I hope you are fine up there. All the best for everyone who loves Matthew. Jack - The...Read More »
35 of 100+ | Posted by: Jack

“I am not from US, but still i felt that i had to write in here. No one deserves to be treated like that. You are not a real friend if you cannot be...Read More »
36 of 100+ | Posted by: Sebastian Srensen - Skælskr

“I didnt know him, but still i am sad too hear how cruel people can be.I have allways been bullied in school and i tried too kill myself twice...Read More »
37 of 100+ | Posted by: Sarah Simone Toft-Lind Jensen

“Hi Matthew! I am from Denmark and have just read your story! It's was awful! I am also born in 1999 and I can't imagine how hard it was! I has been...Read More »
38 of 100+ | Posted by: Anne

“Hi Matthew! I hope you can hear me! I'm very sad to hear about that story. You don't know me, and i don't now you. I'm from Denmark. Best wishes from...Read More »
39 of 100+ | Posted by: Kasper - Smrum

“I did not know Matthew or his Family, but I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son, brother, grandson, nephew, may you all one day find the...Read More »
40 of 100+ | Posted by: charmain

“JMJ I was very saddened to hear of the passing of Matthew. May he rest in peace. My prayers for Matthew, his family and all those who mourn his...Read More »
41 of 100+ | Posted by: Father Chuck

“We did not know Matthew but are saddened by the story of his unfortunate passing. We wish we had know Matthew as he seems like a nice young man. Our...Read More »
42 of 100+ | Posted by: Drinkwater Family - San Diego, CA

“I am sorry to hear about your lost, you are doing the right way against the school district and the teens, who do this to other's teens.I pray for...Read More »
43 of 100+ | Posted by: idalia rodriguez - McALlen, TX

“So sorry for your loss . Schools need to look for things like this . Kids the day gets away with way to much . My heart go's out to the family . To...Read More »
44 of 100+ | Posted by: susie

“I am at loss for words to what happened to Matthew and your family. I really hope that the young man who did this will remember a similar situation,...Read More »
45 of 100+ | Posted by: John Mihael Sucker

“The loss of a child is the most tragic event a parent could endure. With heartfelt sympathy and my deepest condolences. May he rest in peace. ”
46 of 100+ | Posted by: TJF - midwest, MN

“I'm from Brazil and I don't know him or his family but my prayers and my heart goes out to you! I can not believe this kind of stupid things still...Read More »
47 of 100+ | Posted by: Diego - Ribeirão Pires

“I am so saddened by this, my heart goes out to you all. Matthew you are with the angels. And the brightest star in the sky. ”
48 of 100+ | Posted by: Debra Pearce - England

“I did not know Matthew but his story breaks my heart. Thoughts and prayers for Matthew and his family. I'm so sorry for what he went through and I...Read More »
49 of 100+ | Posted by: Shanna - Oceanside, CA - None

50 of 100+ | Posted by: MARIA - NY - NONE

“Matthew, I can't help by feel sorrow for you, the humiliation that was felt from this really evil deed would have torn through you so much i can feel...Read More »
51 of 100+ | Posted by: Jason - Linwood - Stranger

“I didn't know him, but I am sending my prayers to the family from Colorado. God bless. ”
52 of 100+ | Posted by: Tasha - CO

“I did not know Matthew but my heart aches for what happened to him and I'm sending all my love and prayers to his family xx god bless xxx ”
53 of 100+ | Posted by: Sam

“To Matthew's parents: I know it must be so hard to lose a son! The publicity of the event must make everything much worse to deal with. I want you to...Read More »
54 of 100+ | Posted by: Jenny Anhold

“I don't know you or your son! But I am SO so sorry for your loss! ”
55 of 100+ | Posted by: Natascha

“I don't know him or you all but I am so sorry for your loss RIP . I pray for you all ”
56 of 100+ | Posted by: rena - NE

“I did not know your don but am a social worker and a caring adult who has worked with kids who have been bullied. It breaks my heart to hear of your...Read More »
57 of 100+ | Posted by: Becka Oberle

“Dam matt im missing you man i stumbled across a picture of you and i had to write something you'll never be forgotten ill always remember you wanting...Read More »
58 of 100+ | Posted by: wyatt burdette - germantown, MD

“I am so sorry to hear the news. I remember those piercing blue eyes. I will keep you all in my prayers. ”
59 of 100+ | Posted by: Julia Dublnio - Murrieta, CA

“We are deeply saddened to hear of your loss. We will miss taking care of him and please know that our entire staff sends their condolences. ”
60 of 100+ | Posted by: Stephen & Kathy Ward - San Diego, CA

“It was with great sadness that I learned of Matt's passing. There is one more angel in heaven to watch over us. ”
61 of 100+ | Posted by: Jim Oyos - Lemon Grove, CA

“Dear Barbara and family, I am saddened to hear of the passing of your son, Matthew. Though I never had the privilege of meeting Matthew, he seems...Read More »
62 of 100+ | Posted by: Brian Shui - San Diego, CA

“Tim & Barb - I am deeply sorry to hear about Matt's passing and my thoughts and prayers are with you all. I will remember the times I played with...Read More »
63 of 100+ | Posted by: Dave Weiss - San Diego, CA

“Barb, Tim and Masha, Words always fail me, this is no exception. All we can offer you are earnest prayers and the hope that you will find comfort...Read More »
64 of 100+ | Posted by: Rick and Mary White - Pasco, WA

“Although, I didn't meet Matt personally, I learned so much about him by all the wonderful stories Barbara shared in our work environment. I saw him...Read More »
65 of 100+ | Posted by: Gloria Del Castillo - Fallbrook, CA

“While I did not have Matt as a student, I am fortunate to have gotten to know him a little when he would come in for tutoring with friends. I...Read More »
66 of 100+ | Posted by: Ms. Lattimore - San Diego, CA

“We are thinking of you and will keep your beloved Matthew in our hearts forever. ”
67 of 100+ | Posted by: Sally and Carlos Sanchez

“Matthew, I will miss you so much. I don't think I will get used to the empty chair. You mean a lot to everyone. I hope you're happy where you are.. ...Read More »
68 of 100+ | Posted by: Averie Wehr - Friend

“The saddest thing is to know we will not see you grow up to be even a brighter star than you already have been. I am happy that I was able to see you...Read More »
69 of 100+ | Posted by: Barb Schultz - Spokane, WA

“Matt, You were the first freshman to introduce yourself to me. I was very impressed by your friendliness. You were a great person to be around. You...Read More »
70 of 100+ | Posted by: Will Hekman

“My deepest condolences to you all. So many memories of Matt and Masha at Kids Club. May you have strength and peace. ”
71 of 100+ | Posted by: Audra Hochman

“Matt's service today was lovely and touching. It was a beautiful tribute to his life. Clearly Matt was deeply loved by his family and friends. ...Read More »
72 of 100+ | Posted by: Becky Claborn - SAN DIEGO, CA

“I was so moved at the ceremony today by Matt's uncle's words when he quoted "because I knew you I have been changed for good..." (from the Wicked...Read More »
73 of 100+ | Posted by: The Allsop Family - San Diego, CA

“My prayer are with you and all family, God give you the straing of pass this hard time and blessing you with serenity, calm, love from our power Gad. ”
74 of 100+ | Posted by: Esperanza Cabrera - san diego, CA

“I am sorry that we could not be at the service today to pay our respects. My sister and family arrived from South Dakota at noon and are only here...Read More »
75 of 100+ | Posted by: Donna & Roger Stratman - CA

“no words can express my sorry for you. may the love of family and friends help you through this time. ”
76 of 100+ | Posted by: lynnanneand family

“Tim, Barb and Masha no words I write could ever say how sad and at a loss I am today for you. You are all in my heart and prayers. ”
77 of 100+ | Posted by: Jenny Sydnor - San Diego, CA

“Words cannot convey our sorrow for your family's loss. Please know that you all are in our deepest thoughts and prayers. ”
78 of 100+ | Posted by: Michael Cook - DE - Friend of Tim

“Matt, You will be deeply missed at UC High. You have touched the lives of many who are now holding on to their cherished memories of you. Your...Read More »
79 of 100+ | Posted by: Michelle Barnier - San Diego, CA

“No words can ease the loss of a child. Hope your fond memories of Matthew can console you in your unfathomable time of grief. Prayers to find...Read More »
80 of 100+ | Posted by: Bob McKenna - Roseville, CA

“The tragic loss of one so young is unfathomable. Matt was so full of LIFE as he and his pals skateboarded on my steep driveway. The world has lost a...Read More »
81 of 100+ | Posted by: Lois Mulcahey - San Diego, CA

“Our thoughts and prayers are with you. ”
82 of 100+ | Posted by: Shira Scott - San Diego, CA

“Rest in peace little cousin. We are going to miss you so very much. With love, Ben Mechak ”
83 of 100+ | Posted by: Ben Mechak - Nags Head, NC

“Never really got to know you that well Matt, but you always seemed like a really enthusiastic kid and you would've been an awesome edition for the...Read More »
84 of 100+ | Posted by: Cameron Holt - San Diego, CA

“Dear Matt, you were a close friend to many and always had a way with making everyone laugh in the room, I only really became good friends with you...Read More »
85 of 100+ | Posted by: Alex Taylor - San Diego, CA

“Tim and family. I am so sorry for your loss. Our family is praying for you. Peace and comfort. God bless. ”
86 of 100+ | Posted by: John Parson - Bear Creek, PA

“I love you my Matter Cat. Rest in peace my handsome. ”
87 of 100+ | Posted by: Maggie Coates

“Matt, I'm really glad I got the opportunity to get to know you during polo this year. You were such a funny guy and I really enjoyed hanging out with...Read More »
88 of 100+ | Posted by: Chase Claborn - San Diego, CA

“Since hearing of Matt's passing, my heart has been aching for you! As a parent, we put all of love and energy into raising our kids to be the best...Read More »
89 of 100+ | Posted by: Michele Hagstrom - CA

“Dear Matt,I really miss seeing you around in between classes everyday. You were a great friend to have. I really miss you. I really hope you're in a...Read More »
90 of 100+ | Posted by: Ofri Avgil

“Looks like a great young man full of fun, friendship and adventure. A life cut way too short. My prayers to Tim and his family. ”
91 of 100+ | Posted by: Nick - Fairfield, CT - friend

“Our sincere condolences to your family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. He will always be remembered among his friends at UCHS. ”
92 of 100+ | Posted by: Annie Milleret - San Diego, CA

“I remember my sweet student Matt with his signature hat, assuring me that he could handle any challenging task because he was a scholar. I am...Read More »
93 of 100+ | Posted by: Reissa Schrager-Cole - San Diego, CA

“Tim, Barb, and Masha, There are no word to express the sorrow we feel about Matt's passing. Please know that he and all of you will be in our...Read More »
94 of 100+ | Posted by: Joey and Natalie Mechak - MD

“Your family is in our thoughts and prayers ”
95 of 100+ | Posted by: The Deans Family - San Diego, CA

“My sincere condolences, I have been told he was a great person, and a great friend. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time. ”
96 of 100+ | Posted by: Sherryl Godfrey - San Diego, CA

“Tim, Barb, and Masha, We can not begin to imagine your sadness, and are heartbroken for your family. Our thoughts and prayers are...Read More »
97 of 100+ | Posted by: Wynn - Mexico

“I didn't know you, but I have a few friends who did. You seemed like a great person and I'm sorry that you had to leave us. I hope your happier...Read More »
98 of 100+ | Posted by: A - San Diego, CA - Person

“Matt - rest peacefully now my beautiful memory never forgottenBarb, Tim & Masha may the knowledge that you're surrounded by love and loved...Read More »
99 of 100+ | Posted by: John & Tracey Lloyd

“Dear Matt, I didn't get a chance to personally meet you, but I have heard some very nice things about you. I can tell your friends at UCHS will miss...Read More »
100 of 100+ | Posted by: Marie Byrd - San Diego, CA

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Matthew Sergei Burdette of San Diego, son of Timothy and Barbara Burdette, brother of Masha Burdette, born on June 14, 1999 in Orel, Russia and died November 29, 2013.

Matthew was a student at University High School where he played Water Polo and was on the Wrestling Team. He was also a Boy Scout with Troop 260 working toward his Eagle rank.

Matthew was loved by his grandparents Carl and Joan Schmidt, Aunts and Uncles, Carlene and Michael Coats, Peter and Laura (Burdette) Mechak, William and Robert (Jr.) Burdette and cousins Maggie and Alex Coats, Joey, Ben and Mark Mechak, Wyatt, Mollie, Robert (III) and Alec Burdette.

Services will be held on Friday, December 6, 2013 at 2:00 p.m. at El Camino Memorial, 5600 Carroll Canyon Road. For more information please go to www.

In lieu of flowers please send donations to Boy Scouts of America in Matthew's honor at