Condolence & Memory Journal

To everyone in this big loving family, my heart goes out with love and sympathy. There are no words to speak of this loss-except to know that Jake's spirit is free and will always be close to those he loved.
With love, Trinka

Posted by Katrinka Greger - Stonington, CT   August 18, 2019


Words cannot adequately express how sorry we are for your loss. Our sincerest condolences.

Posted by Ken & Deb Berg - Groton, CT   August 16, 2019

To everyone in this big loving family, my heart goes out with love and sympathy.There are no words to speak of this loss,except to
be aware that Jake's spirit is free and will always be close to those he loved.......peace.

Posted by Trinka Greger    August 15, 2019

Steve I was so sorry and sad to hear the news about Jake. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I hope all the kind words and memories can give you some peace during this time.

Posted by John Protopapas    August 15, 2019

So sorry for the loss of your very hansom son. I to just loss my son, who was depressed and in a lot of pain from many unsuccessful back surgeries. I feel your pain and pray for you and your family at this difficult time. May God bless you.

Posted by A mother who lost her son    August 15, 2019

Deb we were so sorry to hear about Jake. You have been in our thoughts and prayers. While there isn't anything that can be said that will provide relief, please know there are many people who care about you and wish they could give you some respite. Know that in time sadness can be replaced by the forever access to special memories of Jake that can be visited over and over. Hope you find that peace soon.
Gregg & Linda

Posted by Gregg Lafontaine - Lebanon, CT   August 14, 2019


My breaks for you, peace be with you and your family.

Jake rest easy and give my love to my son Kyle.

Posted by Jamie Selbie-Rohrberg - Old Lyme, CT   August 14, 2019

Dear Deb,
I'm so sorry to hear of your son Jakes passing. That is heartbreaking. My condolences and prayers to you and you family.
Jay Grasso

Posted by Jay Grasso - CT   August 14, 2019

I was truly disheartened to here of the loss of your son. I can't imagine the pain and sorrow you are all experiencing.
Although I never met Jake he looked like a fun loving, kind hearted soul!
May he Rest In Peace. My thoughts and prayers are sent to all family and friends...

Posted by Cindi Marvel - Windham, CT   August 13, 2019

Dear Unwin family
We are truly heartbroken for your family and send our deepest condolences. Although we don't know each other you have been in my thoughts almost constantly since I heard the news. We know only too well the depth of pain and anguish you are suffering over the loss of your sweet son Jake. Our son Danny passed away two years ago and that pain - while it is not as raw- is still and will always be there. For we have lost a precious beloved and a part of us.If you should ever want to talk or just sit with someone who knows what you are experiencing, we are here for you (please email anytime at - and I will pass on our phone number). There are no words that can fix this, but there is comfort and strength in unity and love to pass on and share. Jake lived a beautiful but brief life, and whatever pain he experienced here is over and he has found peace . I am sure he was lovingly greeted by a crew of fellow Vikings - Danny, Kyle, Brian and Austyn to name a few. I know they are living it up in the light together. Sending love, and healing to all of you. Chris, Mark, Sarah and Caroline Majchrzak

Posted by Chris Majchrzak - East Lyme, CT   August 13, 2019

Deb, I am so very sorry to hear of Jake's passing. Cindy contacted me the other day to let me know. You, Steve and Taylor are in my thoughts at this very sad time. He is at peace now. Nancy Knapp

Posted by Nancy Knapp - Willimantic, CT   August 13, 2019

Dear Debbie,
We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your son. Our deepest condolences to you and your entire family. Both my wife and myself pray for you during this difficult time.

Posted by Mike and Maureen Stella - Whitestone, NY   August 13, 2019


My Deepest Condolences Debbie to you and your family. I am praying for strength and healing for you and your family at this most difficult time. May Jake rest peacefully in God's arms.

Posted by Kerry Hung - Hong Kong   August 12, 2019


Rest in the sweetest of peace Jake.

Posted by Jane - CT   August 11, 2019

Our Deepest Condolences Debbie to you and your family. I am praying for you for strength at this most difficult time . Love John and Randy

Posted by John Bertini - Garden City, NY   August 11, 2019

Dear Debbie, Please accept our deepest condolences to you and your family on the loss of your handsome and wonderful son. I can't imagine the pain and I want you to know that I have been upset and feeling the pain with you. You are very dear to me and I want you to know that I am thinking of you and your family at this awful time. With deepest sympathies , love Johnny and Randy

Posted by John Bertini - Garden City, NY   August 11, 2019

Dear Family of Jake, I am so very sorry for your loss of Jake. He was such a wonderful young man--kind and funny and easy to be around. I met him in Colorado when he was on his sober journey. I remember him discovering coloring for stress relief and he was so talented--the colors and the detail were beautiful. I remember what an athlete he was! From volleyball to softball to horseshoes and bocci ball! I would sit with him at meals at times because we both didn't feel like talking to anybody. I loved to see him laugh and open up, though opening up was hard for him to do--so the times he did it was really special. He talked about his family and how important you were to him. What a beautiful young man. He touched my heart and he will stay in my memories forever. Prayers for all of you.

Posted by ERICA DEVOTI - Ada, OK - friend   August 11, 2019

In Memory of Jake
For Steve, Deb, Taylor, Betsy and all who love him:

William Butler Yeats would have us old and grey and full of sleep' when we dream of the soft look our eyes once had, and of their shadows deep'. To end our journeys here, Yeats asks us to recall our full lives, having loved and lost; only then may we say our goodbyes and hide our faces among the stars.

But what of the life that has been fully-lived in only one quarter of the time Yeats speaks of? What of that life so packed with rich relationships and intense emotional and physical experiences that it propels the soul to finish its journey here in record time?

We cannot possibly know that we are living alongside one of these exceptional souls whose mortal time with us will be finished long before we are ready to say goodbye. They are the budding angels in our midst.

I believe that a soul is far too precious to serve only one purpose, and that we are privileged to have had Jake in our earthly lives for any part of his own.

As dear Jake takes his place among the stars, in our grief we must celebrate the joy of knowing, loving, crying, playing, swimming, hiking, smiling, dancing and laughing with one who had greater work to do beyond this mortal life. He is rising, free of earthly burdens. We pay the cost of our heavy grief knowing that Jake's eternity at peace is invaluable by any measure.

Look to the sky as dusk rises to find the star through which Jake is watching over you.

God speed to your star, Jake!

With love and sincere condolences from Bill, Liam, Delaney, Bella & me, and our extended families,

Kathleen O'Reilly-Wild

Posted by Kathleen O'Reilly-Wild - Niantic, CT   August 11, 2019

Steve, Debbie, Taylor, and Betsy. I am so very sorry to learn of Jake's passing! He was a beautiful young man and I will be thinking and praying for all of you!

Posted by Mary-Jean Montano Dunn - Niantic   August 11, 2019

Dear Debbie,
I know there is no pain more far reaching and extreme than losing a child. I am deeply saddened by the loss of your son. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Paula Fee - Punta Gorda, FL   August 11, 2019