Fay Desale
Fay Desale
  • January 2, 1930 - January 8, 2018
  • Houston, Texas

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Fay Everett Hickey Desale passed away on Monday, the 8th of January 2018, at the age of 88. She was born on the 2nd of January 1930, to Larry and Ruby Everett in Melville, Louisiana. Fay was the youngest of four children, and is preceded in death by her parents and three siblings, Hobart Ray Everett, Fern Everett Luker, and Melvin Eugene Everett.

Fay moved to Houston in 1943 and graduated from Reagan High School in 1948. She entered the legal field as a paralegal for Glenn Chaney in Pearland, Texas in 1970. In 1982, Fay went to work for Tenneco and for 20 plus years completed all the FERC filings for Tennessee Gas Pipeline. She worked for Tenneco and its successor company El Paso Corporation until 2008, finally retiring at the age of 78.

Fay's work was always important to her. She took over 100 hours of college courses at night, all while a single mom, to enhance her professional skills. She was a "go-to" person for all things pipeline while at Tenneco. She was simply the best at what she did and demanded perfection in her job.

Fay is survived by her children, Fern Hickey Santini (Jerre) and Sarah Hickey Foshee (Doug). She viewed Jerry Desale and Don Desale (Karen) with daughters Shelly and Stacie, adult children and grandchildren of her second husband Jerry Desale, as her children and grandchildren as well. She loved each of them endlessly and they were the joys of her life - that is until she had grandchildren! Fay has five grandchildren: Collin Everett Smith, Wilson Autry Foshee, Samuel Everett Foshee, Katherine Lane Foshee, and Margaret Lawrence Foshee. Nothing brought more joy to Fay than being with her grandkids. With Collin, it was serving as his grandmother's traveling companion to three separate out of state family reunions, with a side trip to Branson, Missouri. They spent many days on the road together discussing politics nonstop. With Will, Sam, Kate and Maggie it was bringing over homemade fudge (her specialty) or still-warm lemon cake; it was playing poker, where she gave no quarter; it was sleepovers with the girls which started with dominos, then a rom-com movie in bed with Grandma Fay, and then pancakes at Island Grill the next morning.

Fay was a master gardener. She loved her time at the Houston Arboretum and in her own backyard in Braes Heights, which was a showplace full of the flora of the region expertly cared for. She was a shark at poker and played often with friends and family throughout the years, including with her newest friends at Belmont Village. Fay loved the Blues and was for many years a member of the Houston Blues Society.

Fay was a devoted wife, mother, grandmother, co-worker and most of all - friend. She maintained many friendships from her days as a Redcoat at Reagan High School; with the young women she mentored at Jeff Davis High School, with co-workers at El Paso and with many, many others. She was fiercely loyal to her friends and always thought of others ahead of herself.

A memorial service will be held in the small chapel at First Presbyterian Church, 5300 Main St, Houston, Texas, 77004 on Sunday, January 14th at 2:00pm.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to: The Houston Arboretum and Nature Center, 4501 Woodway Dr., Houston, TX, 77024 (www.houstonarboretum.org) or Communities in Schools of Houston, 1235 North Loop West, Suite 300, Houston, Texas 77008 (www.cishouston.org).