Marye Joakim
Marye Joakim
  • November 8, 1924 - May 2, 2016
  • Niantic, Connecticut

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East Lyme - Marye Doreen Joakim passed away peacefully at home on May 2, 2016. Born on November 8, 1924, in Leamington Spa, Warwickshire, England, she was the third and youngest daughter of the late Maud Lilian (Stockbridge) Bowden and Charles Edward Bowden.

Marye was educated at the Royal Masonic School for Girls in Rickmansworth, England, prior to World War II. As a young lady she survived the "blitz" bombings in nearby Coventry, where she and her two sisters, Phyllis and Sybil, rolled bandages for the wounded Allied troops at the former Gulson Hospital. There she met George Martin Lambert Joakim, a decorated Belgian paratrooper, who received the Croix de Guerre medal for military valor during World War II. They were married in February, 1945 in the London suburb of Roehampton, England. In late 1952, they moved their growing family to the United States, after living in Portugal and Belgium where their first two children were born.

Marye's love of the seashore began in her early childhood, having many wonderful memories of the Bowden summer home "Windwhistle" in Clevedon, Somerset, England. After her marriage, she spent time in the Portuguese fishing village of Costa da Caparica, and the Belgian seaside town of Coxyde on the North Sea. When the family moved to the United States, they eventually settled in the Connecticut shoreline town of Westport, CT., where they had their third child. She finally moved to the village of Niantic in East Lyme in the late 1970s, and enjoyed a scenic water view from her cottage on Smith Cove.

Marye also had a true love of animals, and enjoyed her many excursions to the agricultural regions around Connecticut. She especially loved her trips through the rolling hills and animal barns on the UConn-Storrs campus, where her eldest son and youngest grandson received their degrees. She also received great pleasure from visiting her beloved "Ladies in Waiting," the expectant cows at Tiffany Farms in nearby Old Lyme.

She worked locally for 9 years at St. Agnes Rectory for Father Cronin, Father Kelly, and Father Marino, as well as holding a secretarial position at Mitchell College. Marye also served as a receptionist at the East Lyme Town Hall for 4 years.

Marye was predeceased by her loving sisters, Phyllis Kenyon-May of Leamington Spa and Sybil Kristiansen of Portishead, Avon, England.

She is survived by her three children, Michael Anthony Joakim and his wife Elizabeth ("Betsey") of Rocky Hill, CT., Terese Marye Lilian (Joakim) Richards of East Haven, CT., and Christopher Charles Edward Joakim and his wife Theresa of Davidson, NC.

Marye received much joy from her 8 grandchildren and their families: Suzanne Marye Polino and her husband James of Ocean Isle Beach, NC; Michael William Joakim of Tewksbury, MA.; Christine Ruleau Roth and her husband Craig of Wethersfield, CT.; Matthew Charles Thomas Joakim of Rocky Hill, CT.; James Joseph Richards of Seymour, CT,; Jennifer Terese Davis and her husband Ralph of Seymour, CT; Jaclyn Eva DiGuiseppi and her husband Richard of Naugatuck, CT.; and Jeanette Aimee DiGuiseppi and her husband Stanley of Seymour, CT.

In addition, she was also blessed with 13 great grandchildren: Joseph Polino; Charlotte and Madeline Roth; Emily, Genevieve, and James Richards; Henri Davis; Tristan and Nora DiGuiseppi; Jack and Max DiGuiseppi; as well as step great grandchildren James and Amber Polino.

She is also survived by her niece, Sara (Kenyon-May) Horner of Moreton in Marsh, Gloucestershire, England; her two nephews, Geoffrey Kenyon-May of Mas St. Puelles, France, and Fraser Kenyon-May of Coventry, England; and former sister-in-law Marie C. M. Joakim of Granby, CT. (formerly of Brussels, Belgium).

The Joakim family would like to thank Masonicare Home Health Care of East Lyme, and her personal caregiver Mariam Quarshie, for their extraordinary care during Marye's last months of life.

According to Marye's wishes, there will be no calling hours. Her ashes will be scattered at locations held dear to her. For online condolences, please visit the Fulton-Theroux Funeral Service website at In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to any animal rescue shelter or other charity of choice.